“What was your Trauma?” Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t ask people this question!
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Have you ever thought of doing a TEDx Talk? It would be so amazing
I have CPTSD and I honestly feel like I want to share my trauma with strangers because I’m desperate for validation and empathy and it’s a bad habit and I guess what I’m saying is: people express there trauma in all kinds of different ways
Fight and flight is something im very used to. This is why when i know someone is presenting with it ill try ground them, and calmly get them to breathe and remove them.
I will never ask regardless.
I have “mild” trauma – by which I mean I have trauma responses in certain situations which I can both recognize and attempt to change, thanks to therapy. I’m very open about my disorders and many things about me, but I don’t explain my trauma to people except those closest to me. It’s not anything that really affects my day to day life, but it’s still trauma and it’s still valid and I still don’t necessarily want to share it, even though one of my trauma experiences (possibly two, now that I think about it) directly led to the manifestation of my OCD. I’ll talk about my OCD all day long – but I owe NO ONE my trauma story.
To be honest I skipped over this video initially. I actually used to be able to talk about my trauma freely. But now that I'm more in tune with myself, I want to vomit just thinking about talking about it. I think it got worse after recalling certain details. I'm going to finally bring up how bad it has gotten with my therapist. Thank you for making this video.
I'm diagnosed with CPTSD and DID, besides a bunch of other diagnoses that I don't want to talk about, and what I hate the most besides being asked what my trauma is, is when people try to talk my trauma down after I told them about it. A friend of mine whom I actually really like as a friend tends to say that my PTSD is no reason to act certain ways etc and I don't know how to tell him that it actually DOES have an impact on the way i behave. I tried to explain the science behind it so many times but I think he still doesn't get it…
With ANY health condition or disability…weather it be mental or physical…
(P.S…Sorry for the caps, but it's important and then half-way through I didn't know when to stop using caps and then it was too late to rewrite everything ?)…IS'T OK TO NOT CONSTANTLY ASK WHAT IS GOING ON!…IT IS OK TO NOT ASSUME IT'S INVALID AND NEEDED TO BE PROVED TO PEOPLE!…IT'S OK TO NOT NEED A "DISPLAY" OR "REASON" IN ORDER TO FINALLY TAKE SOMEONE SERIOUSLY!…
I HAVE DISABILITIES AND HEALTH CONDITIONS AND I DON'T MIND SOMETIMES (BEAR IN MIND SOMETIMES) REAVELING MY HEALTH STORY IF SOMEONE IS GENERALLY CURIOUS…BUT I'M NOT ONLY VALID IF I PROVE TO PEOPLE WHAT IS GOING ON WITH ME…MOST TIMES I WANT TO JUST DO THINGS AND GO ABOUT MY LIFE AND NOT HAVE TO EXPLAIN EVERY SINGLE DETAIL OF MY HEALTH…
SOMETIMES I WILL GIVE A BREIF DESCRIPTION OF ONE OF THE HEALTH CONDITIONS I HAVE (LIKE SAY, "LONG STORY SHORT, ONE THING I HAVE IS CHRONIC FATIGUE. IT FEELS LIKE YOU ARE WALKING AROUND ALL DAY IN AND OUT OF ANESTHESIA OR A TRANQUILIZER DART WAS RANDOMLY SHOT IN YOUR BUTT OUT OF NOWHERE! SO I'M HERE NOW, BUT TOMORROW I WILL HAVE "FUN" RECOVERING FROM HAVING FUN AND DOING STUFF TODAY!…AND THAT'S JUST ONE THING ON THE LIST, SOOO")…
I'M KIND OF OK WITH GIVING SOMEONE WHO ASK NICE ABOUT IT AN IDEA OF SOMETHING, BUT I STILL FEEL WEIRD FEELING LIKE I HAVE TO PROVE MY HEALTH IS VALID OR I'M VALID AS A PERSON…ESPECIALLY WHEN THE FIRST WORDS (TO A STRANGER) ARE, "SO, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?! WHY DO YOU HAVE A CANE?! DO YOU NEED IT?!" ??
Oh goodness thank you! No one can say it enough. I hate having someone overhear me telling a close friend that I had a flashback (PTSD) and people butting in asking me why
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Sometimes I think I'm dissociating due to my PTSD but I'm not sure-
When I "dissociate" I just go numb and i don't feel anything it's like being intensely zoned out and I'm just out of it? I don't do anything like at all and I think it's just my brain taking a break from emotion and physically doing anything but I'm still me if that makes sense??
So helpful. Thank you
My mother has post traumatic stress amnesia, and since she told me I haven't once asked about her trauma because I know it could trigger something. I understand the curiosity but it really is never okay to subject someone to reliving the worst times of their life just because you're interested to know.
Of Corse I'm curious, but I would never ask.
I also think it's very interesting that very young children can experience PTSD from trauma they experienced as an infant. They don't remember the event and probably never will be able to remember the event, but the feeling and the fear remain.
‘You are as wholly yourself as you would have been if you had never experienced a trauma’ – I needed to hear both this and the last quote by the entropy system tonight. Thank you.
A lot of people say the best way to get though life is to laugh at yourself.
In no way do I think it’s acceptable to make humor about trauma. I do wonder if you’re able to laugh at jokes that could be simple and playful in nature towards facts about DID as a whole?
Before this video began, the advertisement was for a phone plan.
They stated that with their phone plan, switching it’s easier than ever.
I found this to be humorous in relation to the content you post, though with more thought it did make me wonder how your system may feel about light hearted humor related to DID.
Hey. I was just wondering what's the difference between DID, BPD, OSDD-1a and OSDD-1b? By the way great explanation video. I've now really gotten a better understanding of what PTSD is and how it affects people.
This by far the best explanation of PTSD I've seen.
I have ptsd from when I was very young (along the age of 1/2) I was adopted from russia because my birthparents left my sister and I on the road. It doesn’t hurt to talk about what happened, when certain things happen I do get into that flight or fight mode . I just get more strong and I can’t control it. I still don’t know how to cope with it since I don’t know anyone who is adopted or has ptsd. it gets really hard at times and when I found your channel it helped me to know it’s fine to be sad. Or to know that If whatever it is still hurts you that’s ok too. Thank all of you for what you all do .
Another thing not to do is say, "It's in the past. Get over it."
In our system we have one alter who knows every detail with our trauma and a few others who know some details. I am lucky enough to have amnesia surrounding my trauma but I hate seeing Avery (main keeper of trauma) having to deal with it. He blames himself. Avery doesn't talk to others but he really enjoys seeing your videos. Thank you for your videos 🙂
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I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your videos and the vulnerable position you all put yourselves in to raise awareness for DID. I would be so grateful if you would consider sharing your opinions on this question, however, I absolutely understand if you would rather not. As a healthcare provider, I have read diagnostic guidelines and such for DID, but proper interview etiquette is rarely
if everdiscussed. I work in general medicine, not psychiatry, so I have no personal experience working with individuals who have DID. I've scoured the internet and journals trying to find suggestions on how to conduct general health interviews in patients with DID but haven't turned up much material specifically pertaining to my question. I have read materials such as the guidelines for treatment from the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, and the mayo clinic website for what patients should expect from doctors when they are being worked up for DID, but not much from the other way around. Mostly I am concerned about seeing my patient and calling them by the wrong name or gender pronoun; is there a right/wrong way to politely ask whom you are speaking with? If you have any other concerns that you wish healthcare providers knew I would absolutely love to incorporate your suggestions into my daily practice.Again, thank you so much for the content you create. You speak so eloquently and have done so much for the destigmatization of DID and education on topics pertaining to DID. Your thoughts and opinions resonate with me and I am so happy and grateful that you have shared your personal experiences.
you are amazing,. I agree 100%.
Can you say it louder for the people in the back ?
Wow. Outstanding video.
I don’t need you to validate your disorder to me….. I just want to hear about the crazy shit that happened to do this to you
I’ve heard about satanic cult shit
That’s fucking nuts but also interesting
It effected me… but did NOT define me! ??❤ I love you!
Thank you SO much for making this video! For making this entire channel actually!
My partner has PTSD. I have been with him through nearly seven years of violent flashbacks, self destructive behaviors, and black outs where I spoke with "another him" (dont know if it's an alter or not). I still dont know everything he has been through but that doesn't matter. He isn't here because of his traumas but inspite of them. I always tell him he can tell me when he is ready or not at all, it's okay. I love him.
Thank you so very much for this information. You've helped me understand myself better. And hopefully (as a mother) I can help my children and others that struggle.
Well said! NO ONE is "entitled" to know deeply personal information, particularly such painful stuff to think about and talk about, just cuz they ask! It's the epitome of arrogance to assume they do!
Wow, yet again, another FANTASTICALLY done video & SO well said!! ?? I haven't heard ANYONE in my life (incl professionals like psychiatrists etc) describe these topics this clearly & straightforward. I'm endlessly impressed by how smart, strong, kind & amazing u are DissociaDID! ???
Thank you for this incredible explanation. You are amazing and the channel you’ve created is brilliant and so educational.
Also, I've found so many people say "get over it, it couldn't have been that bad, plus its been years, grow up". This is not okay, if someone trusts you enough to share their trauma with you, DO NOT tell them their trauma isn't "that bad" everyone is effected by things differently, you weren't in their exact same position, so you can't say if it's justified or nor
Just wondering, anyone can answer. But can DID develop if the trauma or abuse comes from yourself? Like if you're constantly putting yourself down or mentally and emotionally abusing yourself.
Thank you so much
I can't watch it to the end bc i'm already a little triggered but i'm very thankful that you speak about that topic
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I absolutely love how Chloe struggles with the symmetry of her eyeliner and honestly so so same
I have memory loss about an expérience i had. Its light memory loss, i forgot names of places and of people related to that event, and i don't have ptsd. I'm terrified by the possibility that someone could use the names i forgot in front of me, i dont know how i would react. It didnt happen because i'm not really social so im usually alone, and also because they aren't names that we hear everyday like Paris, Europe, etc. I get goosebumps when i hear some words and names already, i dont know what will happen with the words i forgot.
It's normal to be curious but definitely not ok to outright ask about it. I take it as a huge honor to be trusted enough to be confided in if they decide to talk to me about it.